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Imperfection is Perfection with Kimberly Seltzer


What does your wardrobe say about you? We often dress to express what we feel, but sometimes, our experiences can cause us to lose our self along the way, affecting how we manifest on the outside. Being in a toxic relationship, going through struggle after struggle, an overwhelming pile of family obligations- there is just so much that can rob us off of feeling our worth. But there is a way to bring that back! In this episode, Daniel and Kimmy Seltzer discuss how we lost self-love, what keeps us from loving ourselves even when we know we should, and how to rebuild our lost confidence. As an Image Expert, Kimmy shares her signature formula to make our charisma glow: the Charisma Quotient. Tune in and learn how you can be in congruence with how you feel inside and how you market yourself to others. Confidence is experience. Wear that red dress, put on your high heels, and walk the runway. Don’t let the present simply slip away. Image does matter. You ought to be showing up as the best version of yourself!

“There's no such thing as perfection. Imperfection is perfection and that is how we learn and grow. Just get it up there and take bold action because it's never going to be perfect. But if you don't do anything, that is failure.” - Kimberly Seltzer

Episode Highlights
  • 02:18 The Power And Limitations of Self-Love
  • 10:42 The Charisma Quotient
  • 12:33 Why Image Is Important
  • 21:59 Embrace and Embody An Opportunity
  • 29:58 A Holistic Approach to Get Results
  • 35:01 See Where Confidence Lands You
  • 40:11 Imperfection is Perfection


About Kimberly Seltzer:

Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist, Authentic Dating Strategist and Image Expert.  With vast knowledge and experience as a therapist, certified style coach, dating coach, and matchmaker, she has helped people find lasting love and connection, attract success and build valuable relationships using her unique “confidence makeover” process. Using an outside-in approach, Kimmy implements targeted style, emotional and social intelligence in people’s lives using her signature formula, “The Charisma Quotient,” working on body language, first impressions, image/wardrobe and flirting and how it impacts attraction. This Los Angeles-based expert travels the country helping people discover confidence, charisma and connection as a speaker at National Matchmaking Conferences, eHarmony, Neutrogena, The Guild at Universal, UCLA and iDate. Kimmy is also a regular contributor to the Huffington Post with appearances in Cosmopolitan, Oprah Magazine, Redbook, Reader’s Digest, AskMen, Fox News Magazine, Yahoo and the Washington Examiner, among a myriad of other publications. Kimmy has been the leading love expert on the traveling live dating show The Great Love Debate and the cable reality series, The Romance. You can also listen to her on her podcast, The Charisma Quotient and her new show on Amazon Live with SwayTv, Kimmy’s Love Hub.  


03:23 “When you love you, that’s when other people do too.” – Kimberly Seltzer

05:45 “Most people work from the inside out, but I believe working from the outside in is the quickest gateway into someone’s confidence. It’s a symbiotic relationship… Self love is so powerful.” – Kimberly Seltzer

07:36 “Our journey shapes us… Our past is connected to the future including the choices we make and the patterns that get created.” – Kimberly Seltzer

08:26 “If you weren’t loved or you were loved in a bad way, later on, you’ll think that that’s what you deserve, or that’s how you get love… No matter what that is for you, it’s first understanding where you come from in order to understand where you’re going to go.” – Kimberly Seltzer

10:16 “If there was worry early on, then your brain is wired to be worried and that plays out in different ways.” – Kimberly Seltzer

11:48 “If we start small, especially when you start on the outside, it builds new patterns, a new way of looking at things and a new perspective of yourself. And then, others perceive you differently, too.” – Kimberly Seltzer

14:26 “Image matters… The way people perceive you determines how people treat you.” – Kimberly Seltzer

15:22 “What you say isn’t as important as how you show up.” – Kimberly Seltzer

17:17 “It’s not changing who you are. It’s marketing yourself so that somebody gets to know who you are.” – Kimberly Seltzer

20:57 “We can be our best versions of ourselves. We just have to know what that is and that will make a difference in the way we move through the world.” – Kimberly Seltzer

23:20 “We’re always our own best teachers and adversity is a gift in disguise.” – Kimberly Seltzer

25:48 “You have to believe in yourself before other people believe in you… But sometimes you do need that outside perspective for someone to see the beauty or to believe in you when you don’t believe in yourself.” – Daniel Gomez

26:41 “What we reflect on the outside often is how we feel on the inside. Or it’s incongruent, because we could feel awesome on the inside but yet we’re not marketing that.” – Kimberly Seltzer

28:37 “Life brings you curveballs. What you do with it is what matters.” – Kimberly Seltzer

33:44 “Confidence simply is experience. If we don’t feel confident, practice!” – Kimberly Seltzer

34:42 “You will perform differently when you’re wearing something differently.” – Kimberly Seltzer

35:59 “Try to think of something healthy wherever you’re at. The only way to find something different is to do just small things that can build your confidence. Do digestible little action steps that will build that confidence and give you that courage and hope to move forward.” – Kimberly Seltzer

37:19 “Worry about the present because today is a gift.” – Daniel Gomez

37:48 “No relationship starts without a conversation, whether it’s business, attraction, or friendship. You have to have a conversation.” – Daniel Gomez

38:05 “Just do it and stay present, then it’s half the battle… Take bold action, especially because fear will combat that every single time. And that takes a lot of courage to combat that fear because that’s what prevents people from changing.” – Kimberly Seltzer

40:18 “There’s no such thing as perfection. Imperfection is perfection and that is how we learn and grow. Just get it up there. It is about taking action because it’s never going to be perfect. But if you don’t do anything, that is failure.” – Kimberly Seltzer